Christian opinion on dating
It is now deemed the fastest growing online community for Christians.
But it is only one of many online dating sites for the mate-less faithful.
The new trend in dating sites built exclusively for Christians may have emerged long after their general market analogs but they make few strides in avoiding the same pitfalls.
As usual, the Christian sub-culture is a step behind and not an inch deeper—from music to books to fashion trends, and now online dating.
After entering my email address, zip code, and height, I’m asked, “What is your body type? This paradox is one of several that causes me to wonder if increasingly popular Christian dating websites undermine the faith-values of their users.
” My cursor hovers above “Washboard,” but in the end, I select, “I should maybe lose a few.” Next comes eye color, ethnicity, education, occupation, and smoking and drinking preferences. I’m questioned on what type of church I attend, how often I go, and what ministry I’m involved in. As of 2011, Christian Mingle had garnered more than 5 million users, and it generated .9 million in revenue during the first nine months of 2012.
Applying it directly as a divine promise for prosperity in modern Christians’ dating lives requires a feat of theological gymnastics.
Christian dating sites are quick to invoke spiritual and even Biblical references in an effort to capture new users, but these marketing ploys are often taken so far out of their original context that they have been emptied of almost any meaning.
Christian Mingle, for example, has been airing an ad during the History Channel mini-series, The Bible.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.
Over the weekend, I discovered perhaps the strangest new addition to the Christian dating cadre: Reformed