Dating questions to ask a man
and that’s another way how you wrap him around your finger — by getting as much valuable information out of him, without seeming pushy or like a psycho. Try these out first, see how they work for you and your relationship. The trick to casual conversations is to make sure you keep the conversation going. These are the opening lines, in a manner of speaking.
Sometimes we meet a man who is everything we want in a guy, he’s funny around friends, he’s intelligent and he’s easy on the eyes. The first set of questions is for a casual conversation. Ask him an open-ended question (see questions below) and listen intently, then follow up with an open-ended question about his answer. You asked an open-ended question, he responded, and you kept the conversation going with a response that reflected his answer while giving a little tidbit of information about yourself as well. Sports are a safe conversations starter, and if he doesn’t watch sports you can always follow up with, “Oh, what kind of things are you interested in? They’re also particularly geared towards men who are shy and don’t know how to make conversation or who don’t know how to talk about themselves and their own interests.
On a first date go for a friendly tone rather than an intimate tone when asking this question. Don’t be afraid to change plans if you arrive at a restaurant and find it’s too noisy for a good conversation.
Why: This shows you're considerate of other people's comfort. Why: If they still live with their Mom or they live with 10 roommates, this tells you something about how they like to live.
By the time you get to the point you’re going to go on a date with each other, you should already have a few sparks flowing between you. You should feel some sort of mental chemistry from the first set of “getting to know him” questions above.
Why: Whatever you're really passionate about, do they respect it? If you jump to an assumption that they have the same politics as you, they might feel too awkward to say that their politics are different. To take some of the pressure off during first dates, remind yourself: (a) that you each have 50% of the responsibility for how the conversation flows, and (b) you can only control how someone reacts to you to a limited extent. Why: You likely have a preference one way or the other. However it's good to know what you're getting yourself in for before you start to get attached to someone. Why: Do they spend a lot of money or time collecting something? The answers to the above questions aren't necessarily deal breakers. This might not be important to you, but it might be. Why: The main point here is not to jump to assumptions about your date's politics. Why: If your date is exploring a relationship with someone else you might want to push pause at the end of your first date but offer them the opportunity to get back in touch with you if the other relationship doesn’t work out. Especially in the age of internet dating, people sometimes meet multiple people they’re interested in around the same time. Why: This will tell you about your date’s preferences and also if they're someone who tends to reflect on experiences and can talk about their thoughts. Why: Tells you something about whether they seek out new experiences. What are your thoughts about the upcoming election (any upcoming election)?
You might worry about spilling wine on your dress, or choking on your pasta, but more often you worry about keeping the conversation going. They see a beautiful woman in front of them and BAM! Because of this, ladies, it’s up to us to keep the flow going, and the only way to do that is to ask your guy the right questions.