Dating with the disabled
As we all know, depending on where you live, public transportation in Trinidad and Tobago is usually a problem.
When you’re dating someone who is disabled, transportation is even trickier.
Let’s be honest, many people tend to not know how to refer to disabilities, and you really don’t want to offend anyone, especially someone you like.
There are many terms for various disabilities floating around – cripple, one-legged man, visually impaired, mentally challenged, mad, handicapped, differently-abled, and a whole host of other labels.
In my case, since I am a pretty independent person, I date people with that same trait. It really does depend on the type of person you are dating, how independent they are, and the particular situations his or her disability places you in.
Dating someone with a disability can bring you into contact with some not-so-average situations.
Talk to your date and find out what life is like for the person.
To the first question, I answered that I did not know that sight was a requirement to have sex. People were surprised when I introduced him as my boyfriend.
So you have to be open-minded and flexible, and it helps to have a sense of humour.
You don’t have to know everything about having a disability.
It was a bit daunting for me to find the vocabulary needed to even talk about the disability.
So, in order to get off on the right foot, I simply asked.